You might need a strong stomach for this next story.
Armie Hammer is in some hot water. Not literally, although, maybe he’d like to be boiled. You see, the actor is in trouble after allegations that some of his private messages involved sexual fantasies about cannibalism.
Into that madness swooped everyone’s favorite sex-obsessed women’s magazine, Cosmopolitan, to criticize Hammer last Thursday while saying that “Yes, There’s a Safe Way to Have a Cannibalism Fetish.” The article came with the subtitle: “As a fetish educator, I’m so tired of seeing the Armie Hammer allegations used against the BDSM community.” Yeah. THAT’S the problem.
According to Cosmo, the Hammer story is “ignor[ing] the real issue” and “damaging” the cannibalism fetish community. So sad to see such a mainstream, respectable, upstanding group go through this. One could even say, it’s hard to digest.
To get to the bottom of it, they interviewed “Jet Setting Jasmine, a master fetish educator, licensed clinical psychotherapist, and co-owner of Royal Fetish Films” and published her response. How exactly does one get their master’s in fetish education, by the way? Maybe I don’t want to know.
Here’s what I’ve been seeing people get wrong in the conversation around Armie Hammer and the abuse allegations against him: His alleged cannibalism fetish itself isn’t the problem. The problem is, if the allegations are true, whether he used his power to groom these women into participating in a lifestyle they had truly not consented to.
Um, can’t we say they’re both problems?
No, because the former is kink shaming and Jasmine would “like to offer a different framework” in which she extolls the virtues of BDSM as if it is morally superior to regular sex because “Consent is the difference between BDSM and non-BSDM[sic] encounters.” She even stated, “I shouldn’t be surprised that the topic of consent got lost in the tabloid shuffle—it’s not something that people outside of BDSM are very good at.” Right, so abuse, assault, and rape are exclusive to the non-BDSM community.
For those looking to get to the meat of the article, she described the “safe way” to engage in the inhuman proclivity:
A *consensual* form of BDSM play featuring a cannibalism fetish would go something like this: Someone might say, “I know I can’t actually eat your hand off, but I can suck your fingers until you tell me to stop or nibble on you.” Blood play is another fetish called hematolagnia. And that can present as someone being turned on by any form of blood during sex from menstrual blood to needle play to biting until there is blood or spanking until there is blood.
Despite these graphic and disturbing BDSM scenarios, Jasmine said she wants “to put some distance between the alleged [abusive] behavior and the BDSM community,” saying, “Instead of shaming people’s fetishes, we should be teaching them to share their interest in a way that doesn’t harm others.” Yes, that’s what we need – MORE sharing of sick, twisted fantasies.
“The Armie Hammer stories bum me out so much not only because the alleged abuse is painful to read but also because they contribute to our society’s already distorted understanding of fetishes,” she bemoaned. Oh, yeah, it’s “society’s” fault and society that needs to be fixed. The poor, misunderstood cannibal fetishist!
She concluded, “We, as a society, need to increase our education beyond vanilla sex.” Presumably with some fava beans and a nice Chianti.