Will Social Networking Sites Like Facebook Destroy Our Society?

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Are social networking websites like Facebook negatively impacting people's ability to effectively communicate with each other?

As adults -- including members of the news media!!! -- begin acting like their text message-crazed children, mightn't the very way they convey thoughts and ideas be changed forever...and not for the better?

Such seems counterintuitive as Americans across the fruited plain electronically reunite with old classmates and people they haven't seen in decades.

Yet, according to the Wall Street Journal's Elizabeth Bernstein, such connections come with risks as you may find out more about someone than you bargained for...and much too frequently (h/t Alan Murray):

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I'm tired of loved ones—you know who you are—who claim they are too busy to pick up the phone, or even write a decent email, yet spend hours on social-media sites, uploading photos of their children or parties, forwarding inane quizzes, posting quirky, sometimes nonsensical one-liners or tweeting their latest whereabouts. ("Anyone know a good restaurant in Berlin?")

One of the big problems is how we converse. Typing still leaves something to be desired as a communication tool; it lacks the nuances that can be expressed by body language and voice inflection. "Online, people can't see the yawn," says Patricia Wallace, a psychologist at Johns Hopkins University's Center for Talented Youth and author of "The Psychology of the Internet."

But let's face it, the problem is much greater than which tools we use to communicate. It's what we are actually saying that's really mucking up our relationships. "Oh my God, a college friend just updated her Facebook status to say that her 'teeth are itching for a flossing!'" shrieked a friend of mine recently. "That's gross. I don't want to hear about what's going on inside her mouth." [...]

Amidst all this heightened chatter, we're not saying much that's interesting, folks. Rather, we're breaking a cardinal rule of companionship: Thou Shalt Not Bore Thy Friends.

Admit it: you're often shocked by the absurd things your friends post on their walls for all to see...and they're just as likely surprised by some of your inanities.

But also at stake are the often offensive e-personalities your loved ones affect:

Consider, for example, how people you know often seem different online—not just gussied up or more polished, but bolder, too, displaying sides of their personalities you have never seen before.

Alex Gilbert, 27, who works for a nonprofit in Houston that teaches creative writing to kids, is still puzzling over an old friend—"a particularly masculine-type dude"—who plays in a heavy-metal band and heads a motorcycle club yet posts videos on Facebook of "uber cute" kittens. "It's not fodder for your real-life conversation," Mr. Gilbert says. "We're not going to get together and talk about how cute kittens are."

Experienced this yet? Or how 'bout this?

And then there's jealousy. In all that information you're posting about your life—your vacation, your kids, your promotions at work, even that margarita you just drank—someone is bound to find something to envy.

Or this?

Facebook can also be a mecca for passive-aggressive behavior. "Suddenly, things you wouldn't say out loud in conversation are OK to say because you're sitting behind a computer screen," says Kimberly Kaye, 26, an arts writer in New York.

I have to confess that for several years, friends and colleagues practically demanded I become a Facebook member. It was somehow rude or unprofessional of me to be ignoring this new social medium.

With this in mind, a few months ago my wife decided enough was enough and actually set up a Facebook account for me.

The experience thus far has been rewarding, but a scene at a party for my daughter's soccer team a few years ago gives me grave concern.

As parents spoke in the kitchen, our thirteen and fourteen-year-old daughters lounged in the den texting each other.

Granted, the use of new technology is alluring, but to text folks sitting next to you rather than actually speaking to them seemed horrifying to the adults in the other room.

Now, many adult Facebook members are behaving somewhat similarly as our text message-crazed offspring.

Though this medium might be increasing interaction, isn't it likely decreasing the quality of such interactions?

After all, there's a ceiling on the number of characters and words one can put in a Facebook comment. Different than message boards or chatrooms, this surely acts to reduce the complexity of the discussions.

In fact, most comments have become Twitterish -- a brief, pithy sentence or two, and on you go.

Is this the future of interpersonal relationships? How shallow and uninformed will future generations be if this is the extent of their conversations?

And what of the news media? As it currently stands, the broadcast evening news programs report current events at what appears to be a fourth-grade level.

Unfortunately, that's today's fourth-grade, not when you and I actually learned something in such classes.

It goes without saying that the morning shows are even worse. 

And the daytime talk programs like "The View" and "Oprah?"

Well, I was forced to watch the former a few years ago for professional reasons of little consequence at the moment, and I believed at the time that I lost as many intelligence quotient points in that hour as Gene Wilder's character did at the end of the Mel Brooks classic "Young Frankenstein."

As more and more people communicate via Facebook and Twitter, including media members, is it a metaphysical certitude that press reports will continue to be dumbed down and simplified so as to fit this new diminished standard?

Before you answer consider what the Jeff Goldblum character said in the film "The Big Chill" about the desired length of articles at People magazine (paraphrased): the average piece should take as long to read as the average person needs to move his bowels. 

With this in mind, just imagine how uninformed the public will be when news reports are as brief and trivial as a Facebook comment.

—Noel Sheppard is the Associate Editor of NewsBusters. Follow him at Facebook and Twitter.


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Subtle Big Time Dig At Sarah Palin

"With this in mind, just imagine how uninformed the public will be when
news reports are as brief and trivial as a Facebook comment."

 

 

 

 

 

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Oops, somebody slipped a stoopid pill into my coffee. 

-Dave

John

John,

Hers wasn't a comment. It was a note. ns 

~The note

Heard 'round the world......

I love it, I absolutely love it. Go Palin! Bet PT had a seizure.......

 

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

Sorry, I am not connecting the dots...

What is the dig?

You trying to say Jesus Christ can't hit a curveball?

Exactly, JG: one phrase on Sarah Palin's Facebook page...

...and Obama-care is over -- and Facebook is now a "danger." LOL!

Never been a fan of

Never been a fan of Facebook. There's something too creepy about it for me.

But the Russians are real interested in Facebook. Lookee here:

http://www.techcrunc...

No citizen's right to life, liberty, pursuit of happiness, or property is safe as long as Obama is President of the United States.

My experience

   I'm certainly not the 'hip' dude I was in the seventies, but I use facebook and have found and reconnected with folks I haven't seen or heard from in a long time. While I don't arbitrarily inform people that 'John is eating doritos', I do from time to time post a short comment. Not everyone replies. I've also sent along prayer requests for mutual friends to those who would have never known that prayer was needed. Much like a knife can be used to cut steak or kill someone; it all depends on how you use it. And facebook does give you the option of sending a 'private' message (as does NB); not like twitter where you are necessarily restricted to 140 characters. :-)

"What a revoltin' development this is!"

Chester Riley

I don't know about actually destroying our society...

...but electronic communications, in whatever form, are most definitely wreaking havoc on the English language.

I have also noticed that most teens today lack the ability to write. I am not referring to the gibberish they type and text back and forth, but the physical act of picking up a pen or pencil and actually writing something on a sheet of paper.

-Dave

Paper. Uh--like--- that's so

Paper. Uh--like--- that's so unObama dude. Totally on the hook.

Thanks Barack! You've done more to promote conservatism than any president since Ronald Reagan (PBUH).

And I've alway felt

The need to socialize was a signal to get off the computer. I do agree about the difference in demeanor. In real life, I tend to be confrontational and split hairs..

I am the mob. Don't tread on me.

~*Gasp*

Say it ain't so!

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

Big Chill

I had to laugh at that.

But what was disturbing was the picture you painted of kids sitting next to each other texting.  Just because you then mentioned the Big Chill.

Is there anything better than spending a few hours with an old friend?  One whom you've not seen in a zillion years....but the old relationship settles back in about 30 seconds after you think "wow, she looks OLD...or wow, he's aged well"?

I suspect the digital age has depersonalized us, to a certain extent.  OTOH, how many good friends have we made, whom we'd never have met....without the internet?

Nicely done, NS.

Oh...I still refuse to get a Facebook page (hell, I only got a cell phone 5 years ago because they made me!).

I hope he fails, too.

 

 

~That's what I love about this thing

The information sharing power of the internet is invaluable to conservatives these days. Imagine if we had to depend solely on the old media for our news and events coverage!

Meeting all kinds of awesome people you never would have otherwise is pure gravy. :-)

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

I have a very important contribution...

on the subject of "The Big Chill": Excellent soundtrack- I highly recommend it. Your welcome... ;-b

~That's the first thing I think

When that movie is mentioned. It's fantastic soundtrack. And I'm not exactly saying that out of nostalgia! You know something is good when it crosses the generation gap.

 

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

Generations

Oh...I still refuse to get a Facebook page (hell, I only got a cell phone 5 years ago because they made me!).

LOL,  I haven't had a LAN line for 5 years!

You trying to say Jesus Christ can't hit a curveball?

~Hahaha

I'm 28 and I've never had a land line!

 

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

Are we talking

Are we talking about a twisted pair, or a local area network?

I am the mob. Don't tread on me.

I'm starting to get a little

I'm starting to get a little embarrassed...

I meant I've only had a cell phone for the past 5 years.. 

You trying to say Jesus Christ can't hit a curveball?

I still have...................

a rotary wall phone.....a 1935 Ericsson.....a real antique....it still works!!

Beg... WoW! I envy

Beg...

WoW!

I envy you...I love antiques...love to have that...you lucky duck you.

Obama's a Community Agitator, a walking, talking destroyer. ~ Rush Limbaugh

In one way or another, news

In one way or another, news coverage has gotten shorter and shorter ever since the advent of radio, then TV, then USA Today, then the Internet, all in an attempt to keep short attention spans engaged. But there always seems to have been a media source out there that can help you fill in any cracks that the "quick" version omitted. 

Socially, I've been skeeved out by a high school classmate who insists on posting pictures of her in various "artsy" poses that I really, really don't need to see. I've also had the people who are looking for attention: "Bill is really mad today" or over-enthusiastic about the smallest things: "Hey everybody! Going to the Piggly-Wiggly!"

But you learn to edit out the stuff you don't want / need, and find yourself concentrating much more on the relationships you really value. 

 

Lookout organic foods- the

Lookout organic foods- the loopy left is looking for demons...

I am not a fan of sites like Facebook...

MySpace and Twitter...No one in my family either goes on those sites nor are any of us members on them. I realize that many think that they're great, and that's fine. However, I think that they can lead to a coarsening and breakdown of human-to-human relationships. People are much more likely to write things on sites like these that they would never say on the phone or face to face. I also think that they open the door for privacy invasions, and also for human predators to find new prey. Women, especially, I think can and have been targeted by those looking for their next victims, by going on sites like Facebook and MySpace. I prefer to email, write a letter, or pick up the phone!(that way you can hear the person's voice)  

Just my two cents...  :) 

"The problem is not that people are taxed too little...the problem is that government spends too much." ~President Ronald Reagan

I'm in the same camp as you.

I'm in the same camp as you. Everyone in my extended family is on Facebook, it seems, except me. Family members beat on me to "get an account", but I just don't care for it. I know it can be fun and valuable and all that. But it's just not me.

Heck, I just got used to all that talking furniture I have now, like televisions and radios.

No citizen's right to life, liberty, pursuit of happiness, or property is safe as long as Obama is President of the United States.

Make that three. Same

Make that three.

Same sentiments you both mention.

Obama's a Community Agitator, a walking, talking destroyer. ~ Rush Limbaugh

celator and bt...Yep...I guess the three of us...

are dinosaurs when it comes to this particular bit of "gee whiz" communication technology...That's okay...we're all in good company. :) 

"The problem is not that people are taxed too little...the problem is that government spends too much." ~President Ronald Reagan

Prairie and BT.. what adds

Prairie and BT.. what adds to my own inconsistency when it comes to communication technology is that I am a ham radio operator.

When the mood strikes me, I get on the air and chin wag with other hams from all over the world. The conversations can be very long, involved, detailed etc. (and they can be very short, as well.) I like to ask about what's going on in various cities and countries, and it's nice to hear directly and in real time from others re their local "news". I enjoy the accents and voices and local color other hams talk about.

So it's a little different from FB in those ways. Still, for those who enjoy FB, that's great. They are just ahead of us re the new stuff ;+}.

No citizen's right to life, liberty, pursuit of happiness, or property is safe as long as Obama is President of the United States.

Facebook

I think it is the best of both worlds.

You can keep tabs on people and not have to have a grand conversation. Some friend you want at arms reach, others you allow to be closer.

It's a great and easy way to inform EVERYONE on your life changes.

I have old high school teachers, and childhood friends that I have not seen in years on my list.

The keyboard commando (something I just did here on NB as recently as a few days ago) is a real critique. I have also seen some friends show their true colors--colors I did not know they had (mentioned in the article above). It has/will affect our real life interactions, but I am glad they have showed their hand.

I talk to my closest friends on the phone still, but Facebook pros out weigh the cons.

You trying to say Jesus Christ can't hit a curveball?

we have witnessed

to many instances of DWI fatalities,the future problems will be DWT,driving while texting or talking on a cell phone. 5 girls in ny state, 25 in california[train]. pls tak care. [sarc off]

Kittens!

"We're not going to get together and talk about how cute kittens are."

Why not?

Could it be because he actually likes cats and would probably talk about them all day but doesn't because he's afraid societal norms would find that to be unacceptable for a guy like him?

Somtimes the walls that online interaction bring down are walls that shouldn't have been put up.

Now if you want to talk about ANONYMOUS online interaction (such as here, for example) then I'm more inclined to agree.  Google for "John Gabriel's Greater Internet F___wad Theory".  Normal person + audience + anonymous = total f___wad.  In that case, the things society represses are best kept repressed and the ability to be anonymous brings out a lot of bad in a lot of people.

But that's not so much a problem on facebook.

The real question for Facebook is how many of your friends are really friends?  If you're annoyed that someone is "posting every little detail" maybe you should just unfriend them, because you aren't really friends anyway.  When my actual friends post little details, I generally like them, because I like the people posting them and therefore am actually interested in how their day is going and it can give us something to talk about next time we're face to face.

Surprise surprise surprise...

"[O]ur thirteen and fourteen-year-old daughters lounged in the den texting each other."

 Really?  You're shocked by this?  There's not much reason for a kid that age to even need a cell phone (much less text) other than caving to peer pressure, and you expect the same kid who just /had/ to have text to have the responsibility to use it moderately?

Next time, I suggest you try teaching your kids, instead of pulling the classic "oh my gosh that's horrible, how could they have gone so wrong?" parental excuse. 

kg333

kg,

So, from one sentence you believe you have the right to tell me I'm a bad parent? Well, sir or madam, those that know and speak highly of my children would disagree with you.

Regardless, your arrogance is astonishing. How do you know what was said to each of these kids by their respective parents subsequent to the party's conclusion? You don't, do you?

Yet, you feel from this one sentence you have the right to not only publicly belittle a stranger's parenting skills, but also his offspring?

It must be quite a burden to be so omniscient and omnipotent that you feel you're qualified to scold others with so little information at your disposal. Please tell us how you handle such almost God-like responsibility. ns

~Quick, someone bring the fire extinguisher!

Noel just got another one.

Let us all bow our heads and take a moment to reflect on this lesson...before the little pile of ashes blows away.

 

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

gggrrrrrrr! Get 'em NS!

gggrrrrrrr! Get 'em NS!

Noel,

Nice slam.  :-)

It would be interesting to compare Brandon's accomplishment's to that of the spawn of kg333. Somehow I am guessing there would be no comparison to speak of.

I took a peak at his/her/its track. I think we have ourselves a regurgitated troll here.

-Dave

texting

  Is it way too obvious for me to point out that people usually don't tell strangers how to raise their kids in person.  Only behind the safety of the computer. 

Wait, I think I just read an article that pertains to that... 

Somewhere...

Noel.....I understand your point, but.......

I managed to put together my 30th High School Reunion using Facebook, and Classmates.  I found just about everyone using those 2 sites, and the ones I didn't contact directly, were notified by others using the same methods.  So it really does have a value.  It also allows Shy and I to argue with liberals....great fun!!  :-)

Will Facebook destroy our

Will Facebook destroy our society?

No.

As with all technological phenomena, especially that which arises from the internet, there will be people who make it a small, convenient, fun part of their lives; and those who allow it to take over their lives.  Political blogs and message boards, NB included, are exemplary of this truism.  Some take them as an opportunity to spew nonsensical extremist ideology and get into fights, apparently thinking that political discourse as we know it will collapse if they don't post some variation of "those damn liberals/conservatives make me so mad, they're ruining America, blah blah etc." on every single post, replete with illogical arguments, mangled grammar, and personal insults that wouldn't phase a fourth grader. 

The vast majority, meanwhile, post now and then and have a good time with it.  I see no reason why Facebook shouldn't be roughly the same in this respect.

On that note, in the spirit of cutting way back on time spent here, this is my one post for the month of August.  See you around Columbus weekend, perhaps.

~And some people

Use it to appear "above the fray"........

Hey buddy.

;-)

 

Dissent: It's not just for liberals anymore.-kudzupolitics, USA Today

Yes. Binky Braveheart does appear snobbish, elitist even.

Binky: Spoons, as with all culinary phenomena, especially those arising from the ladle arena, there will be people that make it a small, convenient, fun part of their lives, and those that will only partake of soup in the future. Children, adults, all homo sapiens are exemplary of this truism. Some.....ZZZZZZZZZZ

  Oh dear, binky put himself to sleep with his own patter again.

 

a Veteran of a 1000 psychic wars.

There isn't a damn thing

There isn't a damn thing wrong with Facebook.  I am in my 50's and enjoy reconnecting with friends and relatives I have not seen in quite some time. 

I don't text a soul, but I do like Facebook.  If the left is worried that this little thing is going to ruin society then we really do own them.

 

Re attention spans

Re attention spans; I agree our attention spans have decreased significantly over the last thirty years. I'd like to see a study of the average length of a story or report on the evening news over the last forty years. You can use the old networks as a base because there's continuity there, unfortunately. There seems to be a rule now on the news networks that no story can be over sixty seconds or so.

But we are also capable of handling far more complex information. Look at the plot lines of movies and tv shows. Back with the cop shows like Hill Street and NYPD they started with the multiple plot lines, usually two parallel  episode plots and a couple of higher level seasonal plots overlaid. (Compare to simpler older shows like Magnum PI, Rockford or older, with single plot lines.) Now they are all like that. Could an audience in 1960 have followed an episode of CSI today? Are they like that because they need to be to keep us engaged? Will we get three plots in another few years?

Noel, IMHO, modern

Noel, IMHO, modern inventions such as Facebook/Twitter can be a very useful tool for modern life (e.g., the challenge of long-distance social networking).  But like other techno-tools (e.g., cell phones, digital cameras, etc.), they have a propensity for being abused.  Facebook is not a substitute for real relationships -- it is only a means to that ends.  Unfortunately, some people do not understand that.

That said, point well taken about the possibility of envy -- in spite of all our modern conveniences, human nature is no different than it was before Christ, and envy is one of those primordial sins that has, if anything, increased in our modern era.

 

"Let's wrap him up, alright?" -- Keith Olbermann

Facebook, Twitter, etc. are

Facebook, Twitter, etc. are symptoms...not causes.

The Romans of the late empire weren't indolent, bloodthirsty, and shallow because of the games, free bread and circuses...they were that way already and demanded those distractions that fed their wants and helped them escape the reality of their impending doom.

One of the 34% who thinks George W. Bush was a great President. One of the 86% who wants to bring back the stock and pillory.

i admit- i like FB.. it's

i admit- i like FB.. it's the only way i can connect with my family all over the US. JAJT

This reminds me of an old

This reminds me of an old Asimov novel, the title of which I've forgotten, where some residents of a planet had evolved/devolved socially to the point where they could not stand to be in physical proximity with one another.  All their communication and interaction was based on broadcast messages or holographs.  It's good food for thought for anyone interested in this line of thinking. 

If only I could remember the title...I think it was 'Caves of Steel'.

Noel--

I am an ex-techie. I started in computers in 1956 and retired in 2006. In spite of years of technical training, I have a hard time trying to use Facebook. Like you, I have been encouraged to join and so I did , so as not to offend. I can't figure the damn thing out. Every time I am asked to participate, I wind up somewhere in the stratosphere of the great internet cloud. My wife tell me it is because I do not want to learn it. I think she is right.

I have a cell phone. I bought $100 worth of service 7 months ago. I still have $95 left. I can, and occasionally do, talk the ear off a stone statue, but not on the phone.  I cannot imagine what people have to say that is so concentration demanding as to talk or text for hours.

 Further, I am one of those who pulls off the road to answer the phone in the few cases where I receive a call. I am comfortable that I will never kill anyone.

BUT I DO HAVE THE ANSWER TO TEXTING-- because of tthe deterioration of the school system in America over the past 40 years--texting is the speed at which most Americans THINK.

 My son used to get angry with me because I expected him to know the 12s table....Kind of sad, eh????

misterbill

Facebook is a great place to collect all of your liberal friends, and then bug the living crap out of them with daily "status's" which then turn into blog-ish debates.

Payback for 2000-2008. It's a b*tch, as they say :)

If you're on it, let me know and we'll "friend" each other... I have several NB'er friends on there.

 

Great perspective

I share a life-long affiliation with technology and the inability to understand the attraction of social networking and unlimited phone minutes.

I have overheard many of the conversations of those with their ears glued to a cellphone and quite frankly a quote comes to mind:

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt.

This applies to posting on social networking sites as well.

We aren't missing anything by not actively using social networking. And based on the End User Agreements of social networking sites we're probably better off not participating.

Will Social Network Sites destroy our society?

Lesee. Rampant Homosexuality, Loose Morals, Lying at the drop of a hat, The moderd equivalent of gladiatorial games in extreme cage fighting.  LIBERALS.....  Nope Facebook won't destroy our society.  The Democrats beat them to it...