Many people assume the Dear Abby column, which runs in 1400 newspapers worldwide and reaches 110 million people each day, is a trustworthy source of traditional advice on all topics.
However, a Culture and Media Institute analysis of Dear Abby's columns from 2007 reveal a different story. Thirty percent of Abby's columns in 2007 addressed sex and in more than half of those, she rejects traditional sexual morality.
As many as 20 million of Abby's readers are under the age of 18. Millions of young men and women are forming their views on sex and relationships under the influence of an advice columnist who is advancing anything but traditional values.
Other major findings include:
A reluctance to suggest abstinence as an option. Fifty-four columns address sex between unmarried adults, and only one column suggests that sex should be preceded by marriage. Abby's advice to a woman who wanted to take a "friends with benefits" relationship (a sexual relationship between uncommitted friends) to a more meaningful level was to "stop asking for a commitment, and fill the time you're not with him with friends - and other dates should you meet someone you ‘click' with." Abby did not tell the reader to cut off the "benefits." One column even accepted sex between cousins.
As for teens and abstinence, Abby twice encouraged teens who had not yet become sexually active to continue abstaining but failed to remind sexually active teens that the option to abstain is always available for them too.
Abby almost never finds adultery to be wrong. Thirty-six columns address infidelity. In only ten of these columns does Abby suggest breaking off an affair, or not getting into an affair in the first place. Only once does Abby flatly state that an affair is "wrong." At times Abby appears to condone adultery, even homosexual adultery. "Confused in Illinois" wrote Abby that she had no interest in intimate relations with her husband, but she is now involved in a "passionate sexual relationship" with a female friend. Abby told her to "look at the bright side. At least you now finally understand what has been missing [in her marriage]."
Abby fails to tell sexually active teens to stop having sex. Twelve columns address teen sex, and Abby's greatest concerns are avoiding sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. Her advice to a girl whose 12-year-old friend had engaged in sex was: "She needs to be seen by a doctor because she has become sexually active." Abby told another reader, "Sex before marriage may be ‘wrong,' but if my mail is any indication, it's happening...." Abby is an advice columnist. She's the one person who should never condone harmful, immoral behavior simply because it's commonplace.
Homosexuality is perfectly acceptable to Abby. Ten of Abby's 108 sex columns address homosexuality, and Abby never says homosexual behavior is morally wrong. Instead, she treats it as normal and ignores the well-documented, associated health risks. In one column, "Distressed Aunt" wrote to Abby asking whether she should "out" her nephew to his parents after finding an online profile that listed his sexual orientation as "bi." Abby told her, "If your nephew were engaging in self-destructive behavior, I would say tell his parents. However, identifying one's sexual orientation doesn't fall into that category." On October 10, 2007 the Associated Press reported that Abby endorsed same-sex "marriage."
Abby adopts a permissive attitude toward a variety of odd sexual behaviors. Twenty of Abby's sex columns address topics such as stripping, nudism and cross-dressing. Abby told a woman struggling to understand her significant other's desire to dress in women's clothing that it's a "quirk," and, "If I really cared about him, I think I'd ask to spend some time with his ‘other self.' Then I‘d make up my mind about whether I could accept the situation."
As evidenced by her massive audience, Dear Abby is regarded widely as a reliable authority on life's dilemmas. Yet her columns on sex reflect an unwillingness to support traditional, common-sense moral values that steer people away from destructive behavior and protect them from harmful situations. Dear Abby's advice on sexual matters cannot be trusted.
The full report detailing Abby's permissiveness on sexual matters is available at http://www.cultureandmedia.com/.
—Colleen Raezler is a research assistant at the Culture and Media Institute















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Dear Who?
February 14, 2008 - 16:04 ET by Saint ZeroAbby's been dead for years now, and whomever is writing it seems to be a left-wing wack-job. I'm more stunned someone still reads it. Or is this one of those where her readers are actually the number of people each newspaper inflatedly claims to serve?
Like the "Ohmigod, My Most
February 14, 2008 - 16:23 ET by JasonCLike the "Ohmigod, My Most Embarassing Secret!" column in Cosmo, you can almost certainly bet that the majority of letters are written and answered by a small phalanx of underemployed writers. They are not trying ot advance a leftist agenda concerning sexuality, but put something in the paper that is likely to amuse. The idea of an old woman giving the same "Who'll buy the cow if they're getting the milk for free" line to every letter wouldn't exactly make for the kind of guilty pleasure reading that those columns are meant to constitute, would it?
"He was, and is yet, most likely, the wearisomest, self-righteous
pharisee that ever ransacked a Bible to rake the promises to himself
and fling the curses on his neighbors." -Emily Bronte
Dear Abby sells sex and Dearest Mommy Hillary pimps Chelsea
February 14, 2008 - 16:23 ET by Lame CherryAll liberals use sex to sell things to the masses. Except for Rupert Murdoch on Page 3 most of the right wing will not touch the sexing up stories to gain audience.
Abby's readership are Godless morons who need to be told what to do...........on the other hand, God's children have been in scientific studies been found to have more orgasms in sex, better sexual relations and relations more often SO THEY DO NOT HAVE TO BE ENTICED about sex as it is not on their minds, but already taken care of in their body.
Hillary pimping Chelsea was just that as much as she had the old Mother Hamrod out squeezing geezer hands as much as Hillary was attempting a cleavage malfunction in August. Sex is how you get the unsexed to pay attention. It is why Pelosi jacks her dresses up and the liberal chics on the morning shows all have carpal tunnel in attempting to pull down their skirts when they cross their legs.
Abby would go broke if she told people listen to your Rabbi, your Priest, your Mullah or your Minister, because those people all are interested in long term happiness and not short term satisfaction..and most people are cheaters, corner cuttters and sloven.
Hence that is the Hillary Clinton, Barak Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Kos, FluffPo and Letterman audiences. Sex sells best to those who are afraid of it and only practice at it from the celephane distance of no wedding rings. ie, Bill Maher.
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Oh dear
February 14, 2008 - 16:51 ET by DontFeedTheTrollsDear Abby;
My wife says she will stop having sexual relations with me if I don't vote for Hillary in the primary while my best friend says he will stop having sexual relations with me if I don't vote for Obama. What ever can I do???
D
Keep the ILLEGALS out, join NumbersUSA to send free faxes to your reps.
D
February 14, 2008 - 18:14 ET by CaringwhiteguyDo you have a dog?
Abby
Then they came for Dear
February 14, 2008 - 18:48 ET by balboaThen they came for Dear Abby!!!
Homosexuality is perfectly acceptable to Abby.
OH NO!
Ok, point taken Bal...
February 14, 2008 - 20:25 ET by sarcasmoBut that's an easy one, especially around here. The post above also says in part:
since we're (sometimes...) about bias around here, does anyone believe Abby would react the same way to a hypothetical husband's desire to look at young dancers while listening to deafening music-noise as she did to cross-dressing? I don't. Maybe I don't read enough of her column, but I can't imagine it happening.
In fact, considering how common stripping businesses are, I'm not sure it even qualifies as "odd" for heterosexual men to occasionally enjoy looking at strippers. (The only odd part might be honestly-admitting it!) I'm drawn to the subject because stripper-hate is one of those issues which reliably unites control-freaks of the feminist left & the religious right against what the free marketplace really-wants.
JMR
If this is winning, I think I'd rather lose...
What a bizarre thing to
February 14, 2008 - 19:47 ET by cleverpigWhat a bizarre thing to worry about.
By this measure every competent therapist in the world is a sex-crazed liberal deviant.
hmm... hmmm...
February 14, 2008 - 20:35 ET by PeskyDanehmm... hmmm...
Dear Abby and Ann Landers were always libertines
February 15, 2008 - 15:41 ET by greenfairieBoth the original Dear Abby and Ann Landers (twin sisters in real life) were very liberal, very pro-abortion Planned Parenthood shills. Landers drew the line only at gay marriage. The current Dear Abby is the original's daughter. So of course she's all for whatever feels good.
(Advice columnist Carolyn Hax isn't any better.)