Over a video montage of frivolous novelty weddings (drive-through, undersea, and "Elvis as pastor" nuptials) NBC's Lee Cowan asserted that that the institution of marriage is going down hill in a hurry. In the "Today" show's "Today's Relationships" segment on June 22, Cowan did find one bright spot. The only people standing for a responsible, serious understanding of matrimony it seems, are homosexuals. Proponents of same-sex marriage Cowan said, "are still willing to fight for the very institution; defining marriage as a source of a national debate right now."
Cowan explained how, when it comes to relationships and marriage, "rekindling seems unnatural and plenty get so bored with marriage, it seems more like a sexless routine than a romance." Yet he did mention, with a hint of incredulity and with the tagline "The Case Against Marriage" floating on the screen underneath him, how "despite the bad wrap" marriage divorce rates are on the decline . People are investing more and more on marriage help books, but not for the children, their love. or morality. The reason is that, "divorce is painful."
Meredith Vieira finished the piece with an interview with psychologist Gail Saltz and columnist Sandra Tsing Loh. Tsing Loh, author of the article "Lets Call the Whole Thing Off: The author is ending her marriage. Isn't it time you did the same?" believed that marriage is obsolete.
"Well, I mean, marriage was originally conceived as a trade union for women to keep the philandering, wage-earning husband kind of on the farm so that the women and children would not be left penniless," Tsing Loh observed. "Today we have, in the twenty-first century, we call the ‘companionate marriage' where the man works, the woman works, they co-parent, they run the household, gender free neutral way, feed the dog, etc. etc. And then 5, 10, 15, 20 years in, though, we overlay on top of that kind of the women's magazine expectation of keeping the spark alive, so even though, according to evolutionary biology the spark will last for about four years, enough time for two babies to get up and out."
Saltz, who just celebrated her 20th anniversary, was the counter argument, but was continually talked over by Tsing Loh and Vieira.
Just before the segment ended, viewers learned that Tsing Loh is in the process of a divorce after she had an extramarital affair. But this apparently had nothing to do with her opinion on why marriage is obsolete.
Maybe Tsing Loh should have concentrated on keeping said "spark" alive with her husband, instead of someone else.
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Proof that those who
June 22, 2009 - 14:38 ET by MrSnugglesProof that those who support gay marriage simply do not care for marriage in the first place. If you do not care about something, you are more willing to destroy it, redefine it, or throw it out entirely.
Someone who is going through
June 22, 2009 - 15:35 ET by Mitchell BlattSomeone who is going through a divorce after having an affair isn't necessarily the best source on the benefits of marriage...
"Well, I mean, marriage was
June 22, 2009 - 14:40 ET by dscott"Well, I mean, marriage was originally conceived as a trade union for
women to keep the philandering, wage-earning husband kind of on the
farm so that the women and children would not be left penniless,"
Talk about a crappy attitude of male hating and victimhood and she wonders why no one wants to defend "her" concept of marriage? Well there is some logic to her rant, if both partners were males then clearly the egocentric materalist female (Loh) wouldn't be a cause of divorce. snark, snark.
But then canard of same sex marriage proponents fighting to save it is absurd, their forcing themselves into the issue is what is also killing it and making it a meaningless institution. Of course my favorite target of disgust isn't people like Loh, it's the Family Law judges and their cadre of thugs who do their utmost to see to it that marriage is destroyed by burning males so badly that all the rest see it isn't worth it and that fatherhood is trivialized by the farce call visitation.
Nancy Pelosi and Harry Reid, starving the poor one gallon of ethanol at a time. Fill your tank with E85 and cull a village.
What homosexuals do,
June 22, 2009 - 15:05 ET by robert108What homosexuals do, whatever it may be, isn't marriage, and never will be, no matter what kind of legal machinations they perform.
exactly
June 22, 2009 - 21:40 ET by lotr"Let's wrap him up, alright?" -- Keith Olbermann
Homosexuals are the only people defending marriage?
June 22, 2009 - 15:17 ET by acaiguanaThis comment is so patently absurd, it is impossible to parady.
In the "Today" show's "Today's Relationships" segment on June 22, Cowan did find one bright spot. The only people standing for a responsible, serious understanding of matrimony it seems, are homosexuals. Proponents of same-sex marriage Cowan said, "are still willing to fight for the very institution; defining marriage as a source of a national debate right now."
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the whole diatribe is patently absurd
June 22, 2009 - 21:42 ET by lotrI'm at a loss for words -- where does one start with such vacuity?
"Let's wrap him up, alright?" -- Keith Olbermann
Aside from the fact that
June 22, 2009 - 15:39 ET by mattmAside from the fact that NBC is totally wrong about who is willing to fight for marriage (they've never heard of the defense of marriage act, I guess), the fact that the ideological elite call it an "obsolete institution" proves the point I was making the other day:
The concept of marriage comes from traditions and values that homosexuals have rejected. So the question is why do they want to be involved in an isntitution that derives from a tradition they reject? Simple: to get state sanctioning of their lifestyle choice and to poke traditional values in the eye.
I can only guess that the motivation behind this is a combination of alleviating deep-seated guilt, open rebellion and an uncontrollable desire to stick their business in everyone's noses.
NBC's right wing bias is so obvious
June 22, 2009 - 15:46 ET by snaggletoothieSometimes NBC's right wing bias is so obvious. The ONLY people who truly understand and truly defend marriage are nonwhite gays with cerebral palsy and an eating disorder.
Divorces and serial
June 22, 2009 - 16:28 ET by AlanaDivorces and serial matrimony is best for people with a lot of money. For everyone else, divorce makes it hard to get ahead in life. Better to find someone you can love, and stick with him/her, if possible.
Speaking of gays and marriage
June 22, 2009 - 17:15 ET by Kat Outta the BagSpeaking of gays and marriage, did anyone else see that Will.I.Am of the Black-eyed Peas alledgedly punched Queen Perez Hilton in the face last night? Bwahahahaha!!!
Marriage as obsolete
June 22, 2009 - 17:59 ET by east tennessee johnCowan couldn't possibly be speaking of personal experience,huh?
Exactly
June 22, 2009 - 19:02 ET by mbs6During the Proposition 8 debate here in California, the demographics for those in favor of gay marriage were those who were not married or divorced. Those who were married (traditionally) were strong supporters of traditional marriage.
A conservative believes in putting his money where his mouth is. A liberal believes in putting your money where his mouth is. -- mbs6
Gay "marriage" won't improve on traditional marriage
June 22, 2009 - 19:24 ET by nkviking75If gay "marriage" is still with us in a generation, God forbid, I wonder what the statistics will look like. Will gays do any better about divorce, faithfulness, physical abuse, and serial marriage than straights? If we are able to get honest evaluations (don't hold your breath), I doubt gay "marriage" will be any better than traditional marriage. And let's not forget the damage done to the children caught in the middle of these situations. Kids do best when raised in the context of a traditional, healthy marriage, something gay "marriage" is obviously incapable of providing.
There are already examples of gay divorce, including a case here in Iowa a few years ago. Long before our idiot Supreme Court threw out our DOMA law, a gay couple who had been "married" elsewhere got a "divorce" in Sioux City. I remember thinking at the time, "Well, that didn't take long."
When you put the clowns in charge, don't be surprised when a circus breaks out.
"gay marriage" only dilutes the meaning of the word
June 22, 2009 - 21:45 ET by lotrThereby weakening the proto-social institution that the word "marriage" (in English -- there's an equivalent word in all human languages) points to.
"Let's wrap him up, alright?" -- Keith Olbermann
If marriage is obsolete,
June 22, 2009 - 20:42 ET by moderncommentaries83If marriage is obsolete, then why do the left and gays want to be part of it so badly?
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